Here are our recent happenings, written in bits and pieces over the past few weeks. I’ve missed writing these posts. I was reading some of my older ones and was reminded of things I’d already forgotten. They’re such a lovely little snap shot of what is happening at the time, especially now with our beautiful son in our lives. My mission for these next few months is to unravel the mess that is our digital photos. I’m sure many of you can relate. I’d like to put together yearly photobooks of our family moving forward from now and thought some notes from these posts would be a lovely thing to include alongside the photographs.
Doing: sitting on the lounge, sipping hot chocolate, enjoying some quiet time and typing. It’s late and I should really get to bed but I’ve not sat down to write for such a long time now and have such a desire to do so that I’ll sit here a little longer and indulge in this moment. I’m sure I’ll question this decision tomorrow morning but for now it’s making me happy. And one of THE most important things I’ve learned since becoming a mum, is to take the opportunity to have a little me time and fill my cup so to speak.
Hearing: just my fingers typing. It’s bliss. At other times when I’ve sat to write, it seems like there is a never ending chorus of lawn mowers and whipper snippers in the neighbourhood during the brief periods of sunshine we’ve had of late.
Making: another project on my list (there are many) is to make a mantle around the fireplace. We picked up the tiles over the weekend and I’m looking forward to getting started on this soon, very soon because I’m sure it won’t be too long till we’ll want to light the fire. These seasons are changing very quickly. Other less fun jobs include replacing the fly screen on all of our windows. (Update: Alex and I did some together over the weekend and it was actually fun doing them together, hooray for teamwork!)
Cooking: I have these biscuits on my mind but every time I go to make them I’ve just put bubba to bed and haven’t yet made the sunflower seed butter. The last thing I want to do after putting him down for a nap is make a racket in the kitchen. Noise really travels in our house. I’ve also been dabbling in yoghurt making and shall share some more on that soon. I need to make some notes along the way so that it’s a little more reproducible. There have been a few not so fab batches, but these last few have been pretty great. Next up, sourdough! I’ll just have to find some rye flour which is proving difficult. Or not so difficult it turns out as I found a packet hiding in the back of the pantry yesterday. Time to get a sourdough starter going. There’s an overwhelming amount of information on the internet and countless books about sourdough so I’ve decided just to use these posts as a starting point (I adore everything Sophie does and have eaten some of her delicious sourdough) and tweak from there.
Drinking: water, tea, smoothies and hot chocolate.
Craving: I was craving a visit to the beach. Perhaps for the first time in my life, well as long as I can remember, summer went by without a dip in the ocean. Not surprising really, given our distance from the ocean now and the newborn that graced our lives this summer. We satisfied this craving over the weekend. Alex took a few days off work and we headed off down the coast to visit family and the beach. It was wonderful but incredibly tiring. Travelling with a baby is exhausting, Charlie isn’t a great traveller in the car so I’m often singing twinkle twinkle little star (baby loves this song), incy wincy spider or reciting The Very Busy Spider.
Reading: I’m slow to the party but finally started reading All the Light We Cannot See. I was expecting great things from this book after the many glowing reviews I heard/read but I must say I’m just not loving it, at all really. I think perhaps my head isn’t in the right space for the story, especially as it jumps around in time. I often forget where it’s up to when I get brief moments to read a little.
Buying: we’re in need of a car seat and pram again. I honestly hate product research. I end up with 57 tabs open on my computer, get terribly overwhelmed (what if we buy the wrong thing??), shut my computer and walk away. That’s how we ended up borrowing a car seat from our lovely friends. We just need to give it back now because they’re about to have a baby and Charlie has almost outgrown the capsule, he’s certainly too heavy to carry around in it anyway. As for the pram, we sold the first pram I bought as it was just too big when folded up and Charlie did not like being in the bassinet. Funny really because that’s why I wanted the Mountain Buggy in the first place. I liked the look of bassinets and the idea of seeing and chatting to my baby whilst out walking. Turns out he just wants to see everything! So we bought the running pram Alex wanted in the first place, it’s a BOB Revolution, and took Charlie for a spin in his new wheels last night. It’s a dream to push and Charlie enjoyed the ride. He even fell asleep which is a big deal considering the screams that used to come along with pram walks.
Deciding: that we need to bring just a little structure into our lives to help us work towards a few of the bigger things on our list. We’ve been in a (mostly) beautiful bubble since Charlie arrived, gently rolling along. Unsurprisingly, our renovations efforts have all but disappeared and no study has been done. Alex laments that we just don’t have time for these things anymore, but I disagree. We just need to use and see our time differently. We still spend plenty of time at night on our computers, scrolling the internet or watching something on Netflix. If there’s time to do that, then there’s time to work on other more productive goals. Of course some down time is very important but there’s certainly time for both. Just a little hustling to get us working again. This had been on my mind for a little while, especially as I’m starting (very very slowly) back at work this week, but a chat with a mum at mother’s group really prompted me to initiate some action. She was telling me how she and her husband had started having a screen free night once a week. It’s so easy, especially after you’ve finally settled bubba down for the night, to switch on the telly, look at something on a laptop and even scroll through your phone too. All of a sudden you see that it’s getting late and then it’s off to bed. We are very guilty of that in our house so we now have one night a week dedicated to work, for Alex that means his PhD and for me that means business things, and another night a week that’s predominantly screen free where we intentionally spend time together. We can do purposeful things on the computer together, like look at kitchen designs or plants for hedges, but no mindless scrolling.
Enjoying: the change of seasons. It’s been hot for a long time and then all of a sudden, just before the end of summer, there was a familiar autumn chill in the air. Autumn’s coming I announced to Alex and sure enough that night it was only 2 degrees! My morning swim was very chilly but I just couldn’t start swimming in the indoor pool just yet, not when the outdoor season feels so short. I’m enjoying being back in a climate with 4 distinct seasons, I find it comforting and familiar.
Planning: our vegetable garden. We really need to get that happening this coming weekend before it gets too cold. I’m thinking we’ll grow things like rhubarb, leeks, silverbeet, cavalo nero, kale and parsnips. And garlic, lots of garlic.
Pondering: introducing solids to Charlie. It’s been on my mind for a while now. Before I was pregnant I’d already decided that when we had children we would wait until they were 6 months old to introduce solids via baby led weaning. I’ll elaborate on why I love this method later in the future, this post is lengthy enough as it is. The thing is, now my baby is here in my arms, I can see (and my intuition says) he’s just about ready to enjoy the world of food. Charlie is, and always has been, a very alert baby. He watches us with great interest when we eat. When he was 6 weeks old he just stared in awe as Alex and I sat eating homemade hamburgers. I told him it was another 4.5 months till he could eat with us and he promptly burst into tears. Poor baby! So right now I’m wrestling with my professional knowledge, my maternal instincts, my baby’s development and people’s comments. I don’t want to just stick my head in the sand and wait till 6 months because the book says so but I also don’t want to be swayed by people’s comments… look how he’s chewing on that thing, he must be hungry, you should give him solids.
Wearing: cosy pyjamas.
Feeling: so so many things. Who knew you could feel so many opposite feelings so strongly at the same time. Charlie is without a doubt, the greatest joy of my life, but these past few months have also been damn hard. I saw my first client the other week, and goodness me going back to work makes a whole lot of feelings. I think that having a baby intensifies your feelings about everything, at least that’s how I’ve felt. So it’s been a time of feeling all of the feelings rather intensely.